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Every woman tackles a blowjob for the first time with at least some fear of failure. Allow me to make the start a bit easier for you.

How do I get psychologically ready for my first fellatio?

Ask yourselves why you want to do this. Before a woman puts it in her mouth, she usually finds it hard to believe that she could derive any pleasure out of it. If you’re not doing it out of curiosity but because of a feeling of duty, the experience will be unpleasant and the partner will not get much joy out of it as well. We recommend you view the penis as a mini version of your man – you must have wanted to eat him occasionally? Fellatio is the closest thing there is to making the wish for such intimacy come true.

How can I practice in advance?

You’re using your brain at this exact moment to have a better idea what to do with the other organs. You’ve probably heard expressions like “suck/eat/lick my dick” – you can use them to make an abstract thing seem more concrete. You can also suck your finger. Just try it! When you don’t think you look ridiculous anymore, you’ll perhaps even feel pleasure, which is about one percent of what your partner will feel down there. Once you suck your finger self-confidently, try sucking his finger as well. But don’t do this unless you plan to move to the areas south of his hand soon.

What do I do with my hands?

When you decide it’s the right time to try giving a blowjob for the first time in your life, get to work on your partner with your hands first. For a start, it’s better to do fellatio on a very hard penis. Once you’ve mastered the skill, you can also test yourself on less hard cocks. If you’re performing a blowjob for the very first time, it might be a good trick to catch your partner completely by surprise by not telling him about it in advance - go from a handjob to oral action all of a sudden. Keep the hand at the root of the penis as some kind of movable base, which moves in unison with your mouth – so that you don’t have to go as far with your mouth as you would have to if you weren’t using your hands. If you decide to really surprise him, put it in your mouth instantly as deeply as possible. But you can prepare him first and start by kissing and playing with your tongue.

How do I use my lips?

You can slide with your lips on his penis, kiss him, etc. But don’t stick to just that. Embrace him firmly with your lips, so that you can suck him into you. You can test the sensations on your own fingers. The difference between sliding up and down and sucking is great, but not many beginners fathom this out.

What to do with the tongue?

You can draw, hit, fondle and wash the penis with your tongue before you even put it in your mouth, but you don’t need to stop doing this once it’s inside you.

Can I use my teeth?

Most men don’t like pain, especially not on such a sensitive area, so be careful! There are some men who like to be bitten – or to put it better, they like to have their penis between your teeth. Ask them.

Is it already time for deep throat?

Taking the whole penis inside you means that you’re really going to have to relax the throat, which is a big task for a beginner because it’s hard to find the right angle for putting the penis in. You can also have problems with the vomiting reflex. You might want to postpone the deep throat technique for next time, but if you’re relaxed enough, you can try it.

There’s another question with the throat: to swallow or not to swallow? Most beginners don’t do it, but if you want to really impress your partner, be brave. Why not set several milestones in one move? If you postpone it until next time, it will also be the first time.

Why should you even do this? The reasons against it are more or less familiar. The reasons for it are also clear: because you’ll be showing him you accept him in his entirety. The reasons can also be very practical: for example, so that you don’t have to clean the sperm off the seats in your mother’s car.

Where to look?

To a man, fellatio is a very exciting scene visually as well: if he doesn’t enjoy the feeling of control when the woman is on her knees (in the classic type of fellation) in front of him, the sight of him penetrating into the partner’s mouth will definitely do the trick.

To make the scene even more arousing, look him straight in the eyes – that way he’ll be even more aware of what’s happening to him, the feeling of connection between you two will be greater and you’ll certainly be aroused by the sight of his ecstatic face. If nothing else, fellatio will at least offer you aesthetic pleasure!

Now you're ready for giving a blowjob for the first time. Enjoy it!