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Every woman tackles a blowjob for the first time with at least some fear of failure. Allow me to make the start a bit easier for you.

How do I get psychologically ready for my first fellatio?

Ask yourselves why you want to do this. Before a woman puts it in her mouth, she usually finds it hard to believe that she could derive any pleasure out of it. If you’re not doing it out of curiosity but because of a feeling of duty, the experience will be unpleasant and the partner will not get much joy out of it as well. We recommend you view the penis as a mini version of your man – you must have wanted to eat him occasionally? Fellatio is the closest thing there is to making the wish for such intimacy come true.

How can I practice in advance?

You’re using your brain at this exact moment to have a better idea what to do with the other organs. You’ve probably heard expressions like “suck/eat/lick my dick” – you can use them to make an abstract thing seem more concrete. You can also suck your finger. Just try it! When you don’t think you look ridiculous anymore, you’ll perhaps even feel pleasure, which is about one percent of what your partner will feel down there. Once you suck your finger self-confidently, try sucking his finger as well. But don’t do this unless you plan to move to the areas south of his hand soon.

What do I do with my hands?

When you decide it’s the right time to try giving a blowjob for the first time in your life, get to work on your partner with your hands first. For a start, it’s better to do fellatio on a very hard penis. Once you’ve mastered the skill, you can also test yourself on less hard cocks. If you’re performing a blowjob for the very first time, it might be a good trick to catch your partner completely by surprise by not telling him about it in advance - go from a handjob to oral action all of a sudden. Keep the hand at the root of the penis as some kind of movable base, which moves in unison with your mouth – so that you don’t have to go as far with your mouth as you would have to if you weren’t using your hands. If you decide to really surprise him, put it in your mouth instantly as deeply as possible. But you can prepare him first and start by kissing and playing with your tongue.

How do I use my lips?

You can slide with your lips on his penis, kiss him, etc. But don’t stick to just that. Embrace him firmly with your lips, so that you can suck him into you. You can test the sensations on your own fingers. The difference between sliding up and down and sucking is great, but not many beginners fathom this out.

What to do with the tongue?

You can draw, hit, fondle and wash the penis with your tongue before you even put it in your mouth, but you don’t need to stop doing this once it’s inside you.

Can I use my teeth?

Most men don’t like pain, especially not on such a sensitive area, so be careful! There are some men who like to be bitten – or to put it better, they like to have their penis between your teeth. Ask them.

Is it already time for deep throat?

Taking the whole penis inside you means that you’re really going to have to relax the throat, which is a big task for a beginner because it’s hard to find the right angle for putting the penis in. You can also have problems with the vomiting reflex. You might want to postpone the deep throat technique for next time, but if you’re relaxed enough, you can try it.

There’s another question with the throat: to swallow or not to swallow? Most beginners don’t do it, but if you want to really impress your partner, be brave. Why not set several milestones in one move? If you postpone it until next time, it will also be the first time.

Why should you even do this? The reasons against it are more or less familiar. The reasons for it are also clear: because you’ll be showing him you accept him in his entirety. The reasons can also be very practical: for example, so that you don’t have to clean the sperm off the seats in your mother’s car.

Where to look?

To a man, fellatio is a very exciting scene visually as well: if he doesn’t enjoy the feeling of control when the woman is on her knees (in the classic type of fellation) in front of him, the sight of him penetrating into the partner’s mouth will definitely do the trick.

To make the scene even more arousing, look him straight in the eyes – that way he’ll be even more aware of what’s happening to him, the feeling of connection between you two will be greater and you’ll certainly be aroused by the sight of his ecstatic face. If nothing else, fellatio will at least offer you aesthetic pleasure!

Now you're ready for giving a blowjob for the first time. Enjoy it!

Sex Fail #1: Being overly gentle

Sex Fail #2: Baby, did you come?

Perhaps a man sees things differently, especially in one-nighters. But if you do not want a girl to leave your bedroom disappointed and do not want her to remember you as a lover she never wants to go back to, make sure your sex does not look like a pair of bunnies shagging. Instead of having sex, make love... What does this mean? Never forget you are doing it with a WOMAN, not a doll, so pay more attention to her during sex and leave her some control. Kiss her body, tell her she smells nice, be passionate. This does not mean that every sexual act has to be flawless, but you can show her that you are thinking about her pleasure as well, not just yours. Be sensual and show that you are a first-rate lover.

Sex Fail #3: Grumbling and talking during intercourse

Grumbling too loudly, as well as too quietly of course, can be very irritating to a woman. You are probably wondering what they want. They definitely do not want quiet, so choose a middle path to show your emotions for the girl, but do not be so loud that the neighbours will find out. Try to be innovative and do not always repeat the same sentences and use the same nicknames. If you are with a woman you do not know well, avoid vulgar expressions. She may be wild in bed and you feel she may like a bit of vulgarity, but you can quickly go wrong when you say “fuck me, bitch” or something to that effect.

Sex Fail #4: Missionary AGAIN?!

Women do not like monotonous intercourse. That's a clear sex fail. They love new and interesting things. This applies especially if you are in a serious relationship going on for several years, where the sex gets boring. Do not be afraid to experiment in such times. Try different positions and let your fantasies loose. The world market is full of erotic products which can breathe fresh life into your bedroom, so do not be ashamed to suggest to your darling to buy one of them. If you are sceptical about her erotic desires, talk about them over a glass of wine and it is very possible that you will be surprised at how willing she is to use various sexual accessories.

It's common knowledge that women love to be caressed with the tongue. Give her all the pleasure you can!

Start by kissing the lips

Before you start spoiling her, let your partner know what she is in store for, namely that she is going to get some marathon tongue pleasuring and that you are in bed only to give her an unforgettable night. Start by kissing her lips. Start gently and slowly, then proceed more passionately, giving her a deep and wet kiss. Continue by kissing her neck and go down to her breasts, where you should play with her nipples and areolas. Take your time: her breasts are extremely sensitive and a powerful erogenous zone, so you can spend at least half an hour on them! When you lick one, caress the other. Do not lick only the nipples, work on the whole area of the breast and the part between the breasts (the cleavage) as well. Let her know that you adore her breasts and do not allow your tongue to forget a square inch of them!

Turn her over on her stomach and have fun with her back

When you are done with her breasts, turn her over on her stomach and start with her back. This is the second important and powerful erogenous zone. Give her a real treat by massaging her entire back with your tongue. We recommend you go from her behind to the neck with your tongue until she goes crazy from all the tingling and pleasure. During your "massage", you can stimulate her nipples with your hands and you can slowly start working on the anus with your tongue. Tell her to lift her behind a bit, so you will get to her breasts more easily and your tongue will have a much more pleasant journey to her anus. During the licking, combine massaging the breasts with the massaging of her clitoris, while the tongue should be committed passionately to her anal cavity. Do this for so long that she rewards you with a strong orgasm. Just before you feel it coming on, you can even push your tongue a little bit into her anus and thus additionally stimulate her.

Continue by licking her feet

Turn your partner over on her back again and do not let her rest for too long. Keep her body excited and make her feel even hotter. Let her know you still want more and that she is in for even more pleasure. Show her you want more orgasms from her and that you would do anything to achieve this. Get to work on her feet, toes and soles. Massage them with your fingers first, then with the tongue as well. Lick them slowly, with pleasure and in such a way that she sees you really like them, that you are doing this for yourself as well and not only for her. The feet are a powerful erogenous zone as well and you can focus on them in many different ways. Suck each toe individually, lick the sole very hard and in such a way that she really feels your tongue. You can also use your teeth and stimulate her in this way as well. While licking her feet, you can also stimulate her vagina with your hand. This will make her literally begging for your tonguebetween her legs. If you feel the second orgasm coming on, do not ease off and continue massaging her vagina and licking her feet until she comes.

There is nothing finer: vagina

Once you settle down a bit, start again. Like we said, do not let her cool off and rest for too long. Believe us, the female body is capable of multiple orgasmswithout any big breaks, which means that you can continue and get right to the main dish. Start by licking the inner part of her thighs and only skim the vagina slightly. Continue by kissing her Venus mound and just lightly touch the clitoris. Stimulate her slowly, so she will start longing and she will be going crazy from wanting to feel your tongue. Then use it. Lick her all over, lick her deep inside, drink her juices and work on her clitoris. Do whatever you want and everything you know she will enjoy. You can also penetrate her with your tongue. Lick also the area between the anus and the vagina. Show her you are in paradise and that you want her to be in paradise too. Keep your head facing forward at first, then move it to the side, then forward again. If she wishes, she may also sit on your face and rub up against your tongue and mouth. Take all her desires into consideration and offer her everything your tongue is capable of. The orgasm will be strong and such that you too will be transported into another dimension. When it is over, do not back off. Continue by gently kissing the entire crotch. Drink her juices and show her total commitment and love ... If your tongue doesn't fall off, you were not trying hard enough.

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She should tell you what feels good to her

A woman has to be very specific and clear when she tells her man what she likes during intercourse. If she doesn’t do that, there’s a big problem because the man will be trying things the wrong way and he’ll be pushing the wrong buttons. If a woman can reach an orgasm when she’s alone, she can also reach one with a man, especially if she does very similar things and is able to relax enough. The man has to make sure his lady feels relaxed around him. She shouldn’t be embarrassed talking about sex, her feelings and desires. She should show everything to him and demonstrate what turns her on with concrete examples. When a man notices that the woman isn’t responding to his stimulation, he has to ask her if he’s doing it right, if she likes what he’s doing and if she wants him to do something else. A man who doesn’t do this already denies himself all chance of her orgasm at the start. He has to be persistent, which means that he has to keep repeating the questions and has to relax her for a longer period. This can mean as long as a whole year. It depends on the woman and how open she is to such things. A man must try to get into her soul and also conquer all her erogenous zones in the right way, especially if she’s a bit more reserved and if she had problems reaching an orgasm with previous partners as well.

Marathon foreplay

Long foreplay and the spontaneity connected to it are very important for reaching an orgasm. You should definitely not do things like robots or machines which learn advice by heart from some erotic book. Be committed and passionate when you start foreplay. Your partner should melt beneath your tongue and hands. It’s exactly the tongue which could make an orgasm happen for even the least relaxed and coldest woman, especially if you lick her for a really long time and if you don’t give up even when she has given up. Let’s get something straight, half an hour of licking the crotch is definitely not enough, especially if you want her orgasm at all costs and if you want her to get used to coming with you as well. This is where many men make a mistake. They give up too soon. After a few minutes, they don’t feel like it anymore and they think the woman should have reached an orgasm a long time ago. Perhaps they’re confused by the fact that they’re not good at what they’re doing and that they can’t lick their partners well enough. It’s wrong to think like that, especially if she has told you what she likes and how you have to lick her. The trick is in the time. Even if it takes a whole hour, make an effort and persist. Let her really enjoy it, so that she can really relax and she has to be aware that she’s in no hurry and you’re enjoying every minute of it. The feeling that you’re starting to think of it as work and when you start looking at the time is what kills her orgasm. This will make an orgasm come much later. So, let her know that you won’t stop and always keep encouraging her with your words and by complimenting her crotch. Use your fingers, beads or anything else to help you. Basically, take your time and focus on her until she comes. If it doesn’t work the first time, try it the same way the second time. If it doesn’t work the second time, try it the third, forth and fifth time. Do it for so long and so intensely that she really gets used to you and she starts coming all the time. That’s right, a woman has to get used to you and has to trust you. Only then will she be able to relax enough and open up, so that she can start experiencing orgasms.

What if you can’t last long enough?

This can also sometimes be a problem – that a man comes too soon and the woman is left hanging out to dry because she would need longer penetration. But we feel men only come too soon because they forget that the ejaculation can be postponed and little breaks can be taken. They can also combine penetration with the use of their tongue and fingers. They can also use a vibrator or any other accessory. When a man feels he’s just before an orgasm, he should simply stop, wait a bit and continue again. If even this isn’t enough, he should pull his penis out and continue working with his fingers and tongue, then use his penis again. We really don’t see a problem with this and we’re convinced that a woman can also reach a nice orgasm without any problems with a man incapable of long penetration. The female orgasm is, therefore, greatly dependant on the man as well. That’s why we say to all men not to rush things and be persistent because the effort will pay off in the end.

Advise her to masturbate more often

This may sound unusual, but it’s very useful. A woman who can take herself to an orgasm will also be able to show it to her partner. What’s more – she’ll also know how to satisfy herself in front of him and thus he won’t have to guess what more he can do to finally make her come. So, encourage her to get to know her body better and then encourage her to bring her new-found knowledge – a woman can teach herself how to reach an orgasm – into your bed as well, without any reservations. It’ll also be a lot of fun!

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In contrast to other animals that have sexual relations limited to the period of mating and that have them solely for reproduction purposes, the almost only goal of sex for human beings is pleasure. A man - a boy - who first masturbates at the age of 13, doesn’t feel a desire for a woman. Of course, this isn’t an obstacle for him to experience a spontaneous erection, which in adulthood represents a sign of erotic pleasure.

At the age when people gain their first experience as couples, the idea of sexual desire is still a bit confusing. One's desire is undoubtedly directed towards the chosen partner, but it remains superficial and it’s easy to transfer it to any other partner. In their youth, men and women establish a lot of short-lasting relationships.

What happens in a steady relationship?

Then it’s time to have a longer lasting relationship with a steady partner. If a good sexual balance is achieved, the relationship can last very long. At the beginning, your sex drive is sufficiently strong to provoke spontaneous erections often. The couple can enjoy their sex life to the maximum. As you know, routine and age reduce the number of spontaneous erections. In general, couples don’t burden themselves with that, but the reason is very simple: to put it mildly, your sex drive is diminishing. It’s completely natural that it decreases and finally also disappears.

Men, too, have the period of menopause

In order not to run out of luck completely, while their sexual desire decreases, couples broaden their general knowledge about sex, about their bodies and especially eroticism, a phenomenon typical of human beings and unknown to other animals. It’s natural that your sex drive is directly linked to the release of testosterone. The older the body is, the less testosterone it produces. It can also completely stop producing it in a period called by doctors andropause, the male menopause, which occurs at the ages between 50 and 70. In that period, erections are difficult to achieve, but if possible, they are short-lasting, rare and often associated with premature ejaculation.

Relative powerlessness of men

Such relative powerlessness is of organic nature. Interesting enough, it’s been found that many men who reach a satisfactory erection with their wives, who are able to provoke it because of their own experiences, aren’t able to reach an erection with a new partner, though she’s younger and more beautiful, because she doesn’t have the ability to eroticise their relationship.

This relative powerlessness of men - impotence - can even be treated by injecting testosterone if the cause is lack or sexual desire, but this has negative consequences. Owing to the presence of synthetic testosterone in the body, the brain stops stimulating testosterone production. Thus the natural production of the hormone, which is already very poor from the onset, completely and indefinitely stops.

Other factors at play when it comes to your sex drive

Couples can also experience difficulties because their sex drive is dependent to a certain extent on human biological rhythms. This isn’t connected with the periods of mating in animals, but it’s a known fact that women have a greater desire for sex when they ovulate and in the first days of menstruation. They’re more easily aroused in the summer, whereas men are more easily turned on in winter. Men rather have sex in the morning, whereas women like it in the afternoon and evening.

This, of course, doesn’t mean that a man is useless in summer nights. However, a woman who notices the first signs of such "powerlessness" in her partner should choose the most favorable moment for sexual intercourse also according to the above mentioned natural cycles.

This article will help you determine whether you suffer from symptoms of sex addiction or whether you just happen to (honestly and utterly) love sex.

You're leading a double life

Your partner alone isn't enough for you. You often cheat on her or him, and have one or several lovers that you hide from others. You only meet them for sex, without which you feel you simply cannot survive. Many people cheat on their partners, but this doesn't mean they're addicted to sex. Beware if you know you only cheat because of sex, but you cannot help yourself, and if you hide this from yourself as well as others.

You're searching for sexual content all the time

Do you use every spare minute to search for sexual content? Do you even actively create such moments to be able to get to adult content – for instance, you don't appear at work, you don't hang out with your friends? You prefer devoting your time to pornography and searching dates on the internet? This is a clear symptom of sex addiction. You're not a person who just "likes" sexual content, but an individual who cannot live without sex and all the time thinks about the ways to have it.

You're putting your private and business life in danger

If you suffer from sex addiction, you're aware that what you're doing is somehow wrong, and you even have a guilty conscience, but you believe that having sex is worth risking everything: losing the relationship with your partner (because you lie and cheat), losing your job (because you don't come to work, or because you have sex at the workplace) and even losing your life (because of unprotected intercourse and changing your sexual partners).

Your sex addiction may have gone so far that owing to your behavior you've lost your partner and your job and you have already been tested in the hospital for infectious diseases a number of times, fearing for your life, but you still have risky sexual intercourse ... If that's so, you should definitely seek help immediately!

You're looking for sexual adventures

If you don't get what you want at home, or your partner doesn't really turn you on anymore, you look for action and excitement elsewhere – anywhere and with whomever. A sure symptom of sex addiction is that in fact no amount of erotic action will ever satisfy you. You always seek more and more and always something different. It happens to us all that the routine with our partner doesn't thrill us, but you have a big problem if making love never gives you what you want, if you're constantly looking for sex elsewhere and if you cannot stop.

You're breaking the law

As a true addict, you do whatever it takes to get what you need. You break the law, or you do something that is not banned, but which is still not socially desired – for instance, voyeurism, indecent telephone calls and similar. If you're often in trouble because of your sexual needs, this is definitely a sign that you need professional help.

You know you're doing something wrong

Your behavior drives you crazy: you feel ashamed and guilty. You may even have thought of killing yourself because you cannot control the situation any more. You can be sure you show most serious symptoms of sex addictionwhich needs treatment. If you don't seek help, things will only get worse!