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Sex Fail #1: Being overly gentle

Sex Fail #2: Baby, did you come?

Perhaps a man sees things differently, especially in one-nighters. But if you do not want a girl to leave your bedroom disappointed and do not want her to remember you as a lover she never wants to go back to, make sure your sex does not look like a pair of bunnies shagging. Instead of having sex, make love... What does this mean? Never forget you are doing it with a WOMAN, not a doll, so pay more attention to her during sex and leave her some control. Kiss her body, tell her she smells nice, be passionate. This does not mean that every sexual act has to be flawless, but you can show her that you are thinking about her pleasure as well, not just yours. Be sensual and show that you are a first-rate lover.

Sex Fail #3: Grumbling and talking during intercourse

Grumbling too loudly, as well as too quietly of course, can be very irritating to a woman. You are probably wondering what they want. They definitely do not want quiet, so choose a middle path to show your emotions for the girl, but do not be so loud that the neighbours will find out. Try to be innovative and do not always repeat the same sentences and use the same nicknames. If you are with a woman you do not know well, avoid vulgar expressions. She may be wild in bed and you feel she may like a bit of vulgarity, but you can quickly go wrong when you say “fuck me, bitch” or something to that effect.

Sex Fail #4: Missionary AGAIN?!

Women do not like monotonous intercourse. That's a clear sex fail. They love new and interesting things. This applies especially if you are in a serious relationship going on for several years, where the sex gets boring. Do not be afraid to experiment in such times. Try different positions and let your fantasies loose. The world market is full of erotic products which can breathe fresh life into your bedroom, so do not be ashamed to suggest to your darling to buy one of them. If you are sceptical about her erotic desires, talk about them over a glass of wine and it is very possible that you will be surprised at how willing she is to use various sexual accessories.

It's common knowledge that women love to be caressed with the tongue. Give her all the pleasure you can!

Start by kissing the lips

Before you start spoiling her, let your partner know what she is in store for, namely that she is going to get some marathon tongue pleasuring and that you are in bed only to give her an unforgettable night. Start by kissing her lips. Start gently and slowly, then proceed more passionately, giving her a deep and wet kiss. Continue by kissing her neck and go down to her breasts, where you should play with her nipples and areolas. Take your time: her breasts are extremely sensitive and a powerful erogenous zone, so you can spend at least half an hour on them! When you lick one, caress the other. Do not lick only the nipples, work on the whole area of the breast and the part between the breasts (the cleavage) as well. Let her know that you adore her breasts and do not allow your tongue to forget a square inch of them!

Turn her over on her stomach and have fun with her back

When you are done with her breasts, turn her over on her stomach and start with her back. This is the second important and powerful erogenous zone. Give her a real treat by massaging her entire back with your tongue. We recommend you go from her behind to the neck with your tongue until she goes crazy from all the tingling and pleasure. During your "massage", you can stimulate her nipples with your hands and you can slowly start working on the anus with your tongue. Tell her to lift her behind a bit, so you will get to her breasts more easily and your tongue will have a much more pleasant journey to her anus. During the licking, combine massaging the breasts with the massaging of her clitoris, while the tongue should be committed passionately to her anal cavity. Do this for so long that she rewards you with a strong orgasm. Just before you feel it coming on, you can even push your tongue a little bit into her anus and thus additionally stimulate her.

Continue by licking her feet

Turn your partner over on her back again and do not let her rest for too long. Keep her body excited and make her feel even hotter. Let her know you still want more and that she is in for even more pleasure. Show her you want more orgasms from her and that you would do anything to achieve this. Get to work on her feet, toes and soles. Massage them with your fingers first, then with the tongue as well. Lick them slowly, with pleasure and in such a way that she sees you really like them, that you are doing this for yourself as well and not only for her. The feet are a powerful erogenous zone as well and you can focus on them in many different ways. Suck each toe individually, lick the sole very hard and in such a way that she really feels your tongue. You can also use your teeth and stimulate her in this way as well. While licking her feet, you can also stimulate her vagina with your hand. This will make her literally begging for your tonguebetween her legs. If you feel the second orgasm coming on, do not ease off and continue massaging her vagina and licking her feet until she comes.

There is nothing finer: vagina

Once you settle down a bit, start again. Like we said, do not let her cool off and rest for too long. Believe us, the female body is capable of multiple orgasmswithout any big breaks, which means that you can continue and get right to the main dish. Start by licking the inner part of her thighs and only skim the vagina slightly. Continue by kissing her Venus mound and just lightly touch the clitoris. Stimulate her slowly, so she will start longing and she will be going crazy from wanting to feel your tongue. Then use it. Lick her all over, lick her deep inside, drink her juices and work on her clitoris. Do whatever you want and everything you know she will enjoy. You can also penetrate her with your tongue. Lick also the area between the anus and the vagina. Show her you are in paradise and that you want her to be in paradise too. Keep your head facing forward at first, then move it to the side, then forward again. If she wishes, she may also sit on your face and rub up against your tongue and mouth. Take all her desires into consideration and offer her everything your tongue is capable of. The orgasm will be strong and such that you too will be transported into another dimension. When it is over, do not back off. Continue by gently kissing the entire crotch. Drink her juices and show her total commitment and love ... If your tongue doesn't fall off, you were not trying hard enough.

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She should tell you what feels good to her

A woman has to be very specific and clear when she tells her man what she likes during intercourse. If she doesn’t do that, there’s a big problem because the man will be trying things the wrong way and he’ll be pushing the wrong buttons. If a woman can reach an orgasm when she’s alone, she can also reach one with a man, especially if she does very similar things and is able to relax enough. The man has to make sure his lady feels relaxed around him. She shouldn’t be embarrassed talking about sex, her feelings and desires. She should show everything to him and demonstrate what turns her on with concrete examples. When a man notices that the woman isn’t responding to his stimulation, he has to ask her if he’s doing it right, if she likes what he’s doing and if she wants him to do something else. A man who doesn’t do this already denies himself all chance of her orgasm at the start. He has to be persistent, which means that he has to keep repeating the questions and has to relax her for a longer period. This can mean as long as a whole year. It depends on the woman and how open she is to such things. A man must try to get into her soul and also conquer all her erogenous zones in the right way, especially if she’s a bit more reserved and if she had problems reaching an orgasm with previous partners as well.

Marathon foreplay

Long foreplay and the spontaneity connected to it are very important for reaching an orgasm. You should definitely not do things like robots or machines which learn advice by heart from some erotic book. Be committed and passionate when you start foreplay. Your partner should melt beneath your tongue and hands. It’s exactly the tongue which could make an orgasm happen for even the least relaxed and coldest woman, especially if you lick her for a really long time and if you don’t give up even when she has given up. Let’s get something straight, half an hour of licking the crotch is definitely not enough, especially if you want her orgasm at all costs and if you want her to get used to coming with you as well. This is where many men make a mistake. They give up too soon. After a few minutes, they don’t feel like it anymore and they think the woman should have reached an orgasm a long time ago. Perhaps they’re confused by the fact that they’re not good at what they’re doing and that they can’t lick their partners well enough. It’s wrong to think like that, especially if she has told you what she likes and how you have to lick her. The trick is in the time. Even if it takes a whole hour, make an effort and persist. Let her really enjoy it, so that she can really relax and she has to be aware that she’s in no hurry and you’re enjoying every minute of it. The feeling that you’re starting to think of it as work and when you start looking at the time is what kills her orgasm. This will make an orgasm come much later. So, let her know that you won’t stop and always keep encouraging her with your words and by complimenting her crotch. Use your fingers, beads or anything else to help you. Basically, take your time and focus on her until she comes. If it doesn’t work the first time, try it the same way the second time. If it doesn’t work the second time, try it the third, forth and fifth time. Do it for so long and so intensely that she really gets used to you and she starts coming all the time. That’s right, a woman has to get used to you and has to trust you. Only then will she be able to relax enough and open up, so that she can start experiencing orgasms.

What if you can’t last long enough?

This can also sometimes be a problem – that a man comes too soon and the woman is left hanging out to dry because she would need longer penetration. But we feel men only come too soon because they forget that the ejaculation can be postponed and little breaks can be taken. They can also combine penetration with the use of their tongue and fingers. They can also use a vibrator or any other accessory. When a man feels he’s just before an orgasm, he should simply stop, wait a bit and continue again. If even this isn’t enough, he should pull his penis out and continue working with his fingers and tongue, then use his penis again. We really don’t see a problem with this and we’re convinced that a woman can also reach a nice orgasm without any problems with a man incapable of long penetration. The female orgasm is, therefore, greatly dependant on the man as well. That’s why we say to all men not to rush things and be persistent because the effort will pay off in the end.

Advise her to masturbate more often

This may sound unusual, but it’s very useful. A woman who can take herself to an orgasm will also be able to show it to her partner. What’s more – she’ll also know how to satisfy herself in front of him and thus he won’t have to guess what more he can do to finally make her come. So, encourage her to get to know her body better and then encourage her to bring her new-found knowledge – a woman can teach herself how to reach an orgasm – into your bed as well, without any reservations. It’ll also be a lot of fun!

In contrast to other animals that have sexual relations limited to the period of mating and that have them solely for reproduction purposes, the almost only goal of sex for human beings is pleasure. A man - a boy - who first masturbates at the age of 13, doesn’t feel a desire for a woman. Of course, this isn’t an obstacle for him to experience a spontaneous erection, which in adulthood represents a sign of erotic pleasure.

At the age when people gain their first experience as couples, the idea of sexual desire is still a bit confusing. One's desire is undoubtedly directed towards the chosen partner, but it remains superficial and it’s easy to transfer it to any other partner. In their youth, men and women establish a lot of short-lasting relationships.

What happens in a steady relationship?

Then it’s time to have a longer lasting relationship with a steady partner. If a good sexual balance is achieved, the relationship can last very long. At the beginning, your sex drive is sufficiently strong to provoke spontaneous erections often. The couple can enjoy their sex life to the maximum. As you know, routine and age reduce the number of spontaneous erections. In general, couples don’t burden themselves with that, but the reason is very simple: to put it mildly, your sex drive is diminishing. It’s completely natural that it decreases and finally also disappears.

Men, too, have the period of menopause

In order not to run out of luck completely, while their sexual desire decreases, couples broaden their general knowledge about sex, about their bodies and especially eroticism, a phenomenon typical of human beings and unknown to other animals. It’s natural that your sex drive is directly linked to the release of testosterone. The older the body is, the less testosterone it produces. It can also completely stop producing it in a period called by doctors andropause, the male menopause, which occurs at the ages between 50 and 70. In that period, erections are difficult to achieve, but if possible, they are short-lasting, rare and often associated with premature ejaculation.

Relative powerlessness of men

Such relative powerlessness is of organic nature. Interesting enough, it’s been found that many men who reach a satisfactory erection with their wives, who are able to provoke it because of their own experiences, aren’t able to reach an erection with a new partner, though she’s younger and more beautiful, because she doesn’t have the ability to eroticise their relationship.

This relative powerlessness of men - impotence - can even be treated by injecting testosterone if the cause is lack or sexual desire, but this has negative consequences. Owing to the presence of synthetic testosterone in the body, the brain stops stimulating testosterone production. Thus the natural production of the hormone, which is already very poor from the onset, completely and indefinitely stops.

Other factors at play when it comes to your sex drive

Couples can also experience difficulties because their sex drive is dependent to a certain extent on human biological rhythms. This isn’t connected with the periods of mating in animals, but it’s a known fact that women have a greater desire for sex when they ovulate and in the first days of menstruation. They’re more easily aroused in the summer, whereas men are more easily turned on in winter. Men rather have sex in the morning, whereas women like it in the afternoon and evening.

This, of course, doesn’t mean that a man is useless in summer nights. However, a woman who notices the first signs of such "powerlessness" in her partner should choose the most favorable moment for sexual intercourse also according to the above mentioned natural cycles.

What should your penis look like and how good is it in action? What is a normal penis?

What is a normal penis?

Penises are different from one another in a similar way as noses. No human being has an identical nose to the nose of another person. The same goes for penises. You have a normal penis if you can perform things that are intended for the penis. You have a normal penis, if you can pass urine, or if it stiffens when you are turned on, or if you can penetrate a woman’s vagina, or if you ejaculate semen when reaching an orgasm . All other characteristics of the penis are not so significant. If you use the nose to breath and smell things, you have a normal nose. It does not matter if it is turned upwards, downwards, to the left or right, and it does not matter if it is huge or small, circumcised or not circumcised. It is not important how it looks in the flaccid state, or if it erupts the semen too fast, or stiffens twenty times a day, or you can urinate 5 metres away or break a thick handkerchief with the semen. Everything is normal. Also, it is normal to be interested in the penises of your friends, as well as understand that they are different from yours. It would be quite strange to see a penis completely identical to yours.

“My penis is definitely too short”

It is a common belief that the penis is about seven inches long and straight, it stands at a right angle to the man’s body, and it is about as thick as a deodorant can. If your penis does not look like that, it is not normal. Men do the same mistake as women who compare their bodies to actresses created with Photoshop. In reality, there are no such penises or women. However, if a man has such a penis, he probably feels very odd because he has a rare form of a penis. When you are sexually mature, your penis stops growing, and there is nothing you can do about it. It is the function that decides whether a penis is too small. Your penis is too small if you cannot penetrate a woman’s vagina. But as a teenager, you are normally not aware of that and you want to know everything in inches. It is an ungrateful task to set the exact limit, but if your penis is about three to four inches long and you can use it, this means the penis is “normal”.

“My penis is definitely too thin”

Women much more appreciate the thickness of a penis than its size. And here are figures again. To avoid them, the challenge will be posed to women. Take a good look at your thumb. If you try to insert your thumb into a woman’s vagina while she is not aroused, this will be impossible. Vaginal muscles prevent that. When the woman is sexually aroused, her vagina opens and it can accept very large and thick objects, and even a baby travels through the vagina during birth. This indicates that a woman feels very tiny as well as huge objects inside her vagina. You therefore both feel the penis in the vagina. If she knows how to use her muscles, she will also feel your little finger. If she does not know that, she will not feel a beer bottle either. Therefore, if your penis is as thick as your thumb, there is a theoretical possibility to have pleasing sexual intercourse. Theoretically, because men with large and thick dicks only have good sexual relations in theory.

“My penis is definitely too ugly”

The penis is such an interesting thing, in the flaccid or erect state. Some men are terrified to realise that their penises shrink to the size of the foreskin. On the other hand, some men always have half of the penis’s head visible. The penis does not shrink and it only gets in the way when wearing a bathing suit. This is quite normal. It depends on the amount of blood in the penis. The size of the penis cannot be related to its flaccid state. The other fear is to have a penis that is bent in all the strange ways. Some penises have a head that is too big with regard to the root, while others have a head that is too small, or their vessels are fairly visible, or they have bumps, or they are turned upwards facing the navel, or they face downwards. The ugliness of the penis is an advantage that is only appreciated by experienced women, especially various bumps and large heads. Some people cannot have sex in certain positions, but that should not be a problem. What is important is that your penis is rigid and you can ejaculate normally.

“My penis is definitely too big”

This is almost impossible. The only thing is to find a woman who will be able to take it into her vagina and show a great deal of patience. But too big, that is highly unlikely. If the penis is large, there are usually problems with erection, but that is another story. Too big, never.