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Many women can’t reach an orgasm during intercourse. Check what you can do to finally make her come.

She should tell you what feels good to her

A woman has to be very specific and clear when she tells her man what she likes during intercourse. If she doesn’t do that, there’s a big problem because the man will be trying things the wrong way and he’ll be pushing the wrong buttons. If a woman can reach an orgasm when she’s alone, she can also reach one with a man, especially if she does very similar things and is able to relax enough. The man has to make sure his lady feels relaxed around him. She shouldn’t be embarrassed talking about sex, her feelings and desires. She should show everything to him and demonstrate what turns her on with concrete examples. When a man notices that the woman isn’t responding to his stimulation, he has to ask her if he’s doing it right, if she likes what he’s doing and if she wants him to do something else. A man who doesn’t do this already denies himself all chance of her orgasm at the start. He has to be persistent, which means that he has to keep repeating the questions and has to relax her for a longer period. This can mean as long as a whole year. It depends on the woman and how open she is to such things. A man must try to get into her soul and also conquer all her erogenous zones in the right way, especially if she’s a bit more reserved and if she had problems reaching an orgasm with previous partners as well.

Marathon foreplay

Long foreplay and the spontaneity connected to it are very important for reaching an orgasm. You should definitely not do things like robots or machines which learn advice by heart from some erotic book. Be committed and passionate when you start foreplay. Your partner should melt beneath your tongue and hands. It’s exactly the tongue which could make an orgasm happen for even the least relaxed and coldest woman, especially if you lick her for a really long time and if you don’t give up even when she has given up. Let’s get something straight, half an hour of licking the crotch is definitely not enough, especially if you want her orgasm at all costs and if you want her to get used to coming with you as well. This is where many men make a mistake. They give up too soon. After a few minutes, they don’t feel like it anymore and they think the woman should have reached an orgasm a long time ago. Perhaps they’re confused by the fact that they’re not good at what they’re doing and that they can’t lick their partners well enough. It’s wrong to think like that, especially if she has told you what she likes and how you have to lick her. The trick is in the time. Even if it takes a whole hour, make an effort and persist. Let her really enjoy it, so that she can really relax and she has to be aware that she’s in no hurry and you’re enjoying every minute of it. The feeling that you’re starting to think of it as work and when you start looking at the time is what kills her orgasm. This will make an orgasm come much later. So, let her know that you won’t stop and always keep encouraging her with your words and by complimenting her crotch. Use your fingers, beads or anything else to help you. Basically, take your time and focus on her until she comes. If it doesn’t work the first time, try it the same way the second time. If it doesn’t work the second time, try it the third, forth and fifth time. Do it for so long and so intensely that she really gets used to you and she starts coming all the time. That’s right, a woman has to get used to you and has to trust you. Only then will she be able to relax enough and open up, so that she can start experiencing orgasms.

What if you can’t last long enough?

This can also sometimes be a problem – that a man comes too soon and the woman is left hanging out to dry because she would need longer penetration. But we feel men only come too soon because they forget that the ejaculation can be postponed and little breaks can be taken. They can also combine penetration with the use of their tongue and fingers. They can also use a vibrator or any other accessory. When a man feels he’s just before an orgasm, he should simply stop, wait a bit and continue again. If even this isn’t enough, he should pull his penis out and continue working with his fingers and tongue, then use his penis again. We really don’t see a problem with this and we’re convinced that a woman can also reach a nice orgasm without any problems with a man incapable of long penetration. The female orgasm is, therefore, greatly dependant on the man as well. That’s why we say to all men not to rush things and be persistent because the effort will pay off in the end.

Advise her to masturbate more often

This may sound unusual, but it’s very useful. A woman who can take herself to an orgasm will also be able to show it to her partner. What’s more – she’ll also know how to satisfy herself in front of him and thus he won’t have to guess what more he can do to finally make her come. So, encourage her to get to know her body better and then encourage her to bring her new-found knowledge – a woman can teach herself how to reach an orgasm – into your bed as well, without any reservations. It’ll also be a lot of fun!